Having found my way out of a midlife fairytale, let’s just say that one day, while doing nothing more peculiar than Saturday’s wash, my laundry room morphed into a sinister forest. What does a woman do in a situation like that? Well, being resourceful creatures, we search for secret passageways, collect talismans, diamonds, and toads-who-might-be-princes while carefully observing peculiar landmarks, committing the trail to memory lest we be forced return.
Trauma, including emotional trauma, breaks our connections to ordinary life. It's as if we've have fallen through a rip in the fabric of time, so to speak. And, it's no surprise meeting Cheshire cats disappearing in the moonlight, or leprechauns testing our virtue or vice. We're not even shocked when yellow brick roads appear, winding through trees throwing apples at ungrateful fruit thieves, so impolite.
“Always say ‘Please’,” cautions Gaiman. Even innocents are bound by the rules of common decency, you see. There are no excuses for rude behavior when kindness is the mortal being’s royal birthright. Fairytales are our truest accounts of character transformation. Paupers become princes and scullery maids become queens. The uninitiated human is refined by the challenges of her journey, a royal crown signifying her success: mastery of the self. We refine our character on this journey by the smallest of choices we make. Shall I choose the left fork in the road or the right? Can I solve the riddle and find safe harbor? How we comport ourselves from the beginning of this adventure to the very end, matters. We are transformed. We have the power to choose the direction of our transformation.
WoNderLaNd was created to keep you company during your healing journey. To inspire and delight your sensibilities. To remind you that you are not alone. To impress upon you that the impossible is not; and, the possible most likely is. To reassure you that ordinary heroes still conquer demons, dragons and bedeviling villains as they have for centuries, always earning their escape but never without suffering wounds. Scars bearing witness of human betrayal and treachery. So what can you do when you find yourself trapped in a fairytale?
Question your certainties
Free your imagination
Listen to your instincts
Rely on your wit and cleverness
Accept your suffering
Face your demons, your dragons, your devils
Believe in yourself and your worth
Be willing. Be gentle. Be kind.
And, “if any creature tells you that it hungers, feed it. If it tells you that it is dirty, clean it. If it cries to you that it hurts, if you can, ease its pain,” Gaiman says.
Welcome to WoNderLaNd. Remember: even in the grimmest of adventures through forests dark and sinister, your character is your destiny. Goodness of character has and always will conquer evil. Choose well, my friends. Because in the land of fairies and trolls and secret passageways, every choice matters.
Love,
CZBZ